Sorry for the little dry spell again folks. And for the slow going in general. The inbox is packed but I just haven’t had a lot of time or energy lately to make and queue things up.
I tried to make up for it a little with a quick blitz of posts right here. And I have the queue set for 2 weeks at 2 posts a day. But as fair warning the next few months are going to be loaded for me and I can’t guarantee a lot of activity.
Things are just really, really crazy right now.
Some nights are just fluff nights.
Some nights are just fluff nights.
Some nights are just crack nights.
I’m very uncomfortable with the focus on the mun in this community. I don’t mean to sound heartless. Here or there I’ll warm up to a partner, but I’m not good at socializing. I don’t even like for partners to know what gender I am or what time zone I’m in. And I hyperventilate when they start telling me about bad things going on in their lives. I just want to write and roleplay, but all of these posts “Reblog if you care about the MUN” and “I actually like to get to KNOW my partners” guilt trip me about it.
confession: I think I've developed really bad anxiety issues, as a result of RPing. It depresses me for days when I get ignored/unfollowed/unresponded to. I think I have a serious problem.
My advice is to get away from it for awhile. Take a hiatus from roleplaying and tumblr in general. Find some good books to read, find a new TV show to watch, go see a movie. A few days off and coming back with fresh eyes can be the solution to a lot of hairy issues. But, just like any hobby, when roleplaying it is very important to make sure it is something that primarily makes you feel better, not worse.
Advice: How long should I wait to remind my partner to reply? I don't want to be annoying but they're one of my favorite partners and I miss threading with them.
It’s different for everybody. A lot of people have it on their rules page about how long to wait. If they do not, my advice is to check their amount of activity. Because for some people, two days without a reply is enough time to send a reminder, and for other people it’s two weeks or more. Also, try to be aware of if they’ve been on a hiatus lately or have made any public posts about feeling writer’s block. If they have it’s best to give them their space. But it’s an art, not a science.
Sorry if there wasn’t much information here. Unfortunately since so many different people have so many different schedules it’s impossible to give a dead-set answer for this question, but if you do send them a reminder, I suggest making it just as clear on that how you are trying your darnedest to not seem annoying and let them know that you value your thread together. So long as you stay respectful there’s not much else you can do.
If anyone else has some advice or an opinion to throw in, please reblog this and add a comment and I’m sure it will be appreciated!
Confession: It makes me really uncomfortable when people bring their personal problems into threads because I feel like I'm obligated to solve their problems through my muse, who might not say any of the right things.
I’ve had this problem before and I am here to tell you that the best thing to do in these situations for both yourself and the other person involved is to put your foot down about it. It’s not a safe situation to be in and I can’t stress that enough. Even if you worry about feeling like the bad guy it is not worth the guilt or the headache. You’re a roleplayer and a writer, not a paid professional therapist.
You are not obligated to solve other peoples’ problems through your character and it’s wrong of people to put you in that situation. 99% of the time they don’t even realize that what they are doing is wrong. Chances are they just feel a little lost and venting to somebody who technically does not exist makes it easier to confess things to them, and furthermore if you are writing for a truly beloved character it probably makes people feel good to feel like someone they’ve fictionally already formed a bond with is talking them through a bad time in their life.
Nobody is the bad-guy in these situations, but it’s imperative for your mental health and theirs that you not allow yourself to be sucked into those sorts of situations.
People who’ve been following this blog long enough are aware of how this is one of the very few issues I do not budge on. Believe me: I’ve been in those shoes and they only walk dangerous lines. Don’t wear them.
Advice: If you're concerned about your RP partner not seeing your reply, simply add an @ before their name on their last response, thus tagging them in the post. It's a good way to boost your visibility, is more reliable than the Tumblr Activity bar, and doesn't clutter your response with a random username (since the username is already there).
You should check peoples’ rules pages before taking this approach, though. For a handful of roleplayers, they actually prefer you not do this. Apparently, on some mobile devices on the browser mode, when someone tags your URL in this fashion it eradicates everything from the notifications page.
A lot of roleplayers have turned to using this system since the update that created it, but I suggest if you are one of the roleplayers that don’t, you should make it explicitly clear how important it is people not do this for you.
Proof that 90% of the roleplayers on this site are actually