Advice: I was a fan of this roleplayer and had no idea to approach them, so I lurked their blog frequently thinking of a way to approach them — suddenly, they start calling me out as their stalker, posted my location and now blocked me from using their blog. I literally just wanted to be their friend, now I think they are shady. If they haven't done anything — why would they have an IP tracker and check it frequently if they had nothing to worry about? What should I do, or how to fix this?
This isn’t really a roleplay-related question. I’ll answer it, but just be aware in the future that questions like these that aren’t strictly about roleplaying, so much as blogs on tumblr that happen to be roleplayer run, are subject to rejection.
Anyway, a lot of people have IP trackers. Especially people who have been frequent victims of anonymous hate. This in no way makes a person “shady.” Also, with some of the recent uproar about various abusive roleplayers in the community, a lot of people have added IP trackers as a way to identify these select individuals should they try repeat engagements with a variety of characters, or to identify a problem before it even happens. Someone might have mistaken you for one of these supposed sociopaths.
It’s way overreacting for anyone to freak at you just for being an avid visitor of their blog - which is published on a public domain without a password and therefore free to be viewed by any as much or as little as anyone likes - but that doesn’t change the fact that they did. Maybe they’re paranoid or have had issues in the past and are extra cautious it doesn’t happen again. But the question I’d be asking myself now is: Is that really the type of person I’d want to be friends with, anyway?
I think what I would do is just have a “Screw ‘em,” attitude and move on. You could send an apology for any confusion or mix up the situation may have been caught in — though if you’re blocked I’m not sure how you’d go about doing it. But considering they’ve now done just about everything they can to keep from communicating with you, sometimes you just have to cut your losses and find a different, less neurotic roleplayer to be a fan of.
But, since this isn’t strictly roleplay related, and I’ve never personally experienced the issue, I just want to stress that the bottom half there is really just my hypothetically-dreamedup opinion. You can take it if you’d like, or completely disregard it. (Just like all my other advice, really. But this even moreso since it’s a social issue more than a writing matter.) But that’s the story on the IP trackers.
People usually worry that their OCs or AU characters are too strong, but I’m more worried about making my AU character seem too pitiful and OOC.
It’s shallow to think someone isn’t a good roleplayer just because they like to crack ship.
Whenever another role player posts one of those memes where if they get so and so amount of a certain word, I like to write them a short story with the word capitalized and it makes me happy to see their reactions.
I hate to be a bother, but could you please post a link to the post were someone talked about someone who named their baby after another muse they know?
Check through the “answers” or “stealing” tag. I know it’s there somewhere.
I find that the self-promo idea is both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand it’s fantastic for getting yourself out there and meeting new writers, however on the other, it is rather disheartening when your friends are reblogging everyone else’s promos but never yours. Sure, no one is obliged to reblog them, but you then can’t help starting to worry that they might not like your character as much as they say they do.
Advice: My rp partners never seem to respond to what I say, including introductions. I don't have many partners, and I love to rp because it helps me to calm down, but I can't seem to find people who will consistently rp with me. What should I do?
Check out the “getting started roleplaying” tag for it’s advice posts. It has suggestions that I think can be applied to your situation nicely.
I don’t really like when my rp partner assumes my character is phenomenal in bed. I think that’s something that should be discussed ooc first. I know people like rping to be a perfect world fantasy, but sometimes the more realistic thing is that maybe my character is just okay at sex. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Advice: What is a good way to move on from people who have treated you badly? I've been having a lot of anxiety lately over how a former partner made me feel worthless and beneath them and I keep letting it bring me down. Do you just have to keep focus on all the good and positives and force all the bad experiences away?
To be honest, this isn’t really a roleplay related question. I understand that the issue may have stemmed from a roleplaying encounter, but I understand equally that everyone deals with emotional abuse differently. There are a lot of varying methods to move on from bad situations, and seeing as I am not a professional grief councilor I do not feel comfortable suggesting any one method, as I know nothing about you as an individual.
My advice to you is to look up some “self treatment” methods and see if any of them work for you. There are little things — for example, before you go to bed every night and right when you wake up, think of one good thing that happened that day, one thing you’re looking forward to, or one thing you like about yourself — or larger plans that in some cases require professional approval and supervision. Some people find changing their diet and health patterns helpful. For others, taking on a new hobby does the trick. Everyone deals with grief differently. But I can tell you that you’re on the right track by having the mindset of someone who is willing to move on and who accepts the fact that it won’t all come in one foul swoop.
Why does the clerk blog have 100 followers?
Literally nothing gets posted there.